A couple of years ago, my then 2-year-old broke his femur after taking a tumble off a slide at the playground.
I was riddled with guilt, regret, and self-pity about the whole accident. And my negative thoughts about the situation made it 10 times worse.
This past weekend life gave me a do-over when my sweet 7-year-old broke his collar bone while skiing.
I resolved to handle things differently.
"I wish I'd never gone skiing today." He lamented.
This was my opportunity. Instead of feeling once again riddled with guilt and regret ('I shouldn't have signed him up for lessons'...'If I had been there maybe I could have prevented it'..."Why did this have to happen to him?'...), I resisted the urge to dwell on those thoughts and instead we had the following conversation:
"You know, sometimes really good things can come from hard situations. Can you think of anything good that might come from your broken collar bone?"
"Well," he said, "I'm going to get really good at using my left hand. Maybe I'll become ambidextrous!...and I get to watch lots of movies while I'm getting better."
"What else?" I asked.
"I got a stuffed animal at the hospital; and I don't have to do push-ups when I goof off at bedtime (our consequence for tiring out rowdy kids at night)."
"You know what I learned that helped me so very much at a time when I was really sick?" I added. "I learned that I needed Heavenly Father in a very special way. Being sick helped me humble myself enough to rely more on Him and it strengthened my relationship with Him."
"I'm definitely going to need His help with my broken collar bone." Davis assured me.
Good really can be found amidst our trials.
Our obstacles can actually become the way to strengthening ourselves.
We just have to look for the silver lining.
Can you find the silver lining behind your current hardships?
"There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception.There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means."
--Ryan Holiday, The Obstacle is the Way