I have a theory about gossip.
Engaging in gossip is a lot like eating too many Dunford Donuts.
In the moment,
it feels good.
It is a way to escape your own life a little bit.
Forget your own problems.
Even bond temporarily with the other people who are participating with you.
after the little dopamine hit wears off.
It feels awful.
And you usually feel sick to your stomach.
Then the regret sets in.
And that bonding moment that you had with your fellow gossip girls?
It's not real.
when we engage in gossip with others,
it's really hard not to think,
'I wonder what they say about me when I'm not around?'
Stephen Covey gave some great advice on the subject:
I try to remember this when the urge to say something unkind about someone comes up.
If you can't say anything nice...
your mom taught you the rest.